For those closest to us

It's strange how far one will go to make someone they care about happy, and I dont mean telling a joke here and there to cheer up a friend when they are feeling down and out, but someone who you genially care for and would quite literally do anything for them, to make them happy to see the happiness in their eyes and the smile that makes your day. It's a sign of gratitude and a feeling in more a platonic way of feeling loved. The biggest question that came to me when thinking about this is why do we do these things?

It's because we all have the desire to be loved ok I know only yesterday I was blogging about how everyone of us are different but some things are the same, however it is a completely another matter and a big one at that which will quite like;y be saved for another day.

We dot he things we do for those we care about because we live in hope that in return they will feel the same way, even if one knows that they don't feel that way or "see you in that way" there is always hope even just a fools hope that although unlikely the chance exists that they do feel that way or maybe they soon will.

This is where things can get interesting at least on the psychological view of things when having that small amount of hope. If you are like myself and try and keep in a realistic mind frame of mind for everyday life (theres nothing wrong with imagination I fully encourage it but one has to know the boarders)

However when it comes to some matters in this instance the issue of love, my thoughts spin out of control, I suddenly become aware of everything action and word i say to her and likewise her every action around me and word she says to me, in a false hope to be able to decrypt the puzzle (even though there is no puzzle to decrypt from the get go) in hope that she is giving me a sign subtly trying to tell me that the feeling is mutual. From what I've read and heard from friends this is a common thing, particularly in the case of a friendship between two people and one person has feelings that are "more" than the other.

One thing I have noticed on a more personal level though during my mid teen years these thoughts were the prime thoughts of my days, this over analytical mind frame isn't constantly present which I am incredibly grateful for, because it gets somewhat annoying. Maybe with the approach of my 20th birthday the lats of my adolescence hormones are making a break for it.

This in turn makes me realise that even though my teen years are nearly done I'm sure I will still be doing this in just over a month's time and quite likely will be for some time, it is a thing that stays with us always, the hope that the stuff we do is appreciated, and that we will be loved, in the way an individual loves another, I don't mean you have to get married and live together forever, but its more to be grateful to the things done for you and if you are asked of something by the person who just quite possibly went out of their way to help you, to do it in return unless you physically can't in which case keep the favour for the time being, and say thank you and smile to someone.

Someone I care about very much, done this today she made it seem it was a such a big favour but it really wasn't the smile and her saying thank you made my day, ok as I said I carry that false hope that there is something but one can never tell.

So my message is to say thank you and to smile, spread the love it really isn't difficult also give a hug the power that a hug can have one someone is unbelievable you just may make someone's day.